Children’s Sleep, Attachment & Letting Go of “Perfect” Bedtimes

 “Why Isn’t My Child Sleeping Like Everyone Else’s?”

If you’ve ever found yourself at 2am Googling toddler sleep advice or wondering if you’ve created a “bad habit,” you’re not alone.

Sleep has a way of making everything feel harder. And somewhere along the way, it became something parents feel they need to get right.

That’s exactly why I wanted to talk to Dr Ali Tonks, a child psychologist and holistic sleep coach.

Sleep Isn’t Just About Routines

In this episode, we unpack something that often gets missed: children’s sleep isn’t just about schedules.

It’s influenced by biology, temperament, emotional regulation, attachment — and real life.

Which means if your child doesn’t fit the textbook? That doesn’t mean you’re failing.

There Are No “Bad Habits”

One of the most reassuring parts of this conversation is this:

There are no bad habits. Only what works — or doesn’t work — for your family.

We talk about the pressure created by social media, unrealistic expectations around sleep, and why trial and error is completely normal.

Sleep isn’t a formula. It’s responsive. And so are children.

If Bedtime Feels Heavy Right Now…

This episode won’t give you rigid rules.

It will give you perspective. Compassion. And a calmer way to think about children’s sleep — especially if you’re balancing parenting, work, and exhaustion.

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🎧 Listen to the full episode:
Sleep, Attachment & Letting Go of “Perfect” Bedtimes with Dr Ali Tonks
Available now on Apple Podcasts and Spotify.